Lessons in Parenting

Lesson #1

When you can take a photo (contrived or not) of your two kids together, do it.

This picture isn't the most organic showcase of sibling affection.

I love both of their expressions in the picture above because it absolutely captures their personality.

Graham.....running fast, happy, just glad someone's hugging him

Addison.....no smile. Fine, I'll do it, just don't get too close to me. She also has that glean of mischief in her eyes too.

You know what else isn't organic?

Almost everything in my fridge.

Except the milk.

I can't keep up with the healthy culture where we live.

I'm trying.

I've abstained from creamy jalapeno dip for almost 6 months now.

I was talking to a friend this morning who also moved here in the last year. We were discussing the change in "culture" here.

She said, "You know you live in California when your kid comes home from preschool and asks for seaweed as a snack."

WHAT.

But healthy eating aside, we are really starting to LOVE it out here. We have found a church and are starting to really connect with new friends. It's making all the difference.

Not to say that I'm not ecstatic that we're going back to Houston in 16 days for a visit!

Bring on the creamy jalapeno. And Grimaldi's.

And RJ Goodies.

Lesson #2

Keep your eye on your kids.

Like every second.

Sunday night I was making dinner for some friends who were coming over. I look outside and Graham and Addison are out enjoying the backyard. Andy is keeping an eye on kids and March Madness. Hard to do simultaneously.

I put water on the stove to boil, glance outside and Graham is IN the pond.

Now before you think I've committed the sin of all sins in parenting, we DO have a cover for the pond.

In fact, it's from a company called "Catch a Kid".

It works.

It caught my kid and he's sitting on top of the netting with both legs dangling through (jeans & shoes totally soaked) and doesn't seem to be concerned in the slightest.

Addison being the concerned big sister that she is....

is just watching him, not saying a word.

She was looking at him like, "Now whata you going to do?"

So I run out screaming to Andy, "Graham is IN THE POND!!"

and Addison looks up and says,

"Mommy, I fink Graham is in the pond."

Thanks Addison. I'm glad your babysitting years are 10 years down the road, make that 15.

Lesson #3

Don't take parenting advice given from a swim coach personally.

Meet my strong -willed "spirited" daughter, Addison.

A friend of mine invited me to join in a swim lesson session that began on Monday.

It's taught by this guy.

She warned me that his people skills were not the best but Addison was guaranteed to be able to swim at the end of the 10 day session.

Sign. Us. Up.

I'm going to give you a short summary of Monday's 1st 10 minute private lesson.

Addison: "Mommy, I'm excited to swim!"

Me: "I know, it's going to be so fun! You're such a big girl!"

We get to the pool, and I begin to introduce myself to John, while getting Addison out of her cover-up....still excited.

John: "Mom, hand her to me."

Me. "Oh....uh, ok." You're going to do great Addison!"

John: "Mom, your smile says a lot more than your words. No more talking, just smiling."

Me: Er....ok. Smiling big

John then proceeds to tell Addison to swim and pushes her towards the wall, which takes her by surprise. She still is really happy screaming because she's excited, and still loving it.

After the fourth time of being told to swim, she's realizing this is not fun. There is no jumping off the side, splashing around, or fun stuff that she's used to.....that and she can't breathe.

The whole time, John is talking to me about Texas football.

A. I know nothing about Texas Football.

B. I don't care.

C. My child is screaming and crying in the water.....STOP TALKING TO ME!!!

He then tells Addison to rest and lay her head on his shoulder. I started laughing.

She has laid her head on my shoulder maybe once in her whole life. We got the video camera out for it.

There is no way she is going to lay her head on the shoulder of the scary man that just caused her to chug water 4 times.

She's crying and saying no to him.

John: No noise Addison, just rest.

Addison: "Nnnnoooo,.....I....uh.....(breath)....am.....ccccrrryy....(breath)....ing."

John: stifles a laugh before telling her to swim again.

The torture continues until the next rest period.

John: "Rest Addison, no noise or you have to swim."

Addison hits him.

John then drops her in the water and walks away from her saying, "Watch...now she won't ever hit anyone again."

My child is underwater struggling.

I am on the side of the pool about to leap in the water, grab my kid, and then strangle to guy.

He pulls her up and she is gasping for air.

John: "Do not hit Mr. John."

I am now crying a so thankful that I have my sunglasses on.

John: "Smile mom!"

I'm going to hurt him.

The "lesson" continues for about 2 more minutes. He tells me that he is needing to show her who's boss and that her crying is a form of manipulation before asking me, "Is this how she is at home? Does dad just eventually give in to her?"

No. He. Didn't.

Yes. He. Did.

Me: "No, I don't give in to her!!!!" But I don't let her drown in the water either!"

The lesson is over and Addison struggles to get out of the water. I immediately wrap her in a towel and say, "Addison, you're ok. You did great."

John: "No mom. She didn't do great. She didn't listen to Mr. John. Do not tell her she did a good job."

We scramble to get into the house and the other moms, who did not hear our little lesson begin to sing her praises, encouraging Addison.

John bellows, "Do not tell her she did a good job. She didn't. She didn't listen."

I am crying as I'm trying to dry off Addison and being comforted by my sweet friend. I tell Addison I love her and she says, "Mommy, I need to listen to Mr. John."

Andy and I had a long conversation Monday night. I read through this guy's website. I may not agree with his teaching style 100% or even 75% but it's been proven effective. As Andy said, it's not like we're trying to decide if she takes a ballet class. This is a skill that could save her life.

So we went back yesterday. And we're going back today. And I'm questioning my parenting.

But Addison is going to learn how to swim. And I may learn something as well.

Or...I may hurt Mr. John.

Not Ashamed

I am not ashamed to say that after listening to my daughter yell, cry and scream for 15 minutes while kicking on her door, I finally opened it....not to comfort her, but to document.

Oh Lordy. The thought of naptime and bedtime have been making my skin crawl lately.

It has been a fight.

There have been many days where I have lost.

But today....winning.

There have been way too many times where little miss has thrown a fit and we have given in ....

to provide peace to all.

But she's a smart cookie.

She's played the game.

Game over.

I'm not ashamed to say there could be a lot more of this in the near future.

I'm not ashamed to say that I totally forgot this guy's 15 month post.

He forgave me.

But here were your stats little man.

Height: 32.5 inches (88%)

Weight: 24 lbs (46%)

I'm not ashamed to say that I have turned into a total bird watcher lately.

Our little baby hummingbirds are growing up!

I caught two quick pics of momma bird today.

She swoops in for a quick 10 second feed and then is off again. The babies stay in the nest by themselves since momma doesn't fit anymore. They should be ready to take their first flight in the next few days.

Not ashamed to say that I looked that up on Google.

So maybe you had to be there..

Yesterday morning Andy tried to start his car for work. It barely turned over and then he couldn't drive it without the alarm going off like crazy. So I had to follow him, with both kids in tow at 7am to the car repair place.

So we're driving down El Camino, which is the main thoroughfare where we are (think Woodlands Parkway, but a little bit busier...)

and his car is going off full blast with the horn constantly blaring, lights flashing. Everyone was rolling down their windows and giving him crazy looks, all while I'm following him close behind, laughing because it was just so absurd and funny.

Then we dropped the car and I had to drive him into the office (about 20 minutes away).

Well, I'm not so much of a morning person. I had barely had two sips of my coffee. I usually need at least 2 cups to begin to function normally.

Andy says, "Wow. It's actually lighter now than it is at 6:30."

I'm processing this thinking....

"Um, yeah. The sun is actually higher up in the sky right now at 8am than at 6:30am, so it does appear lighter."

I mean, I was a science teacher. I know how these things work.

So I begin to give him a short science lesson explaining all of this to him.

He just looks at me dumbfounded.

"Melissa! The traffic is lighter!! What are you talking about? I'm not a complete moron! I know how the sun works."

"Oh. Yeah. Good, because you had me a little worried for a second."

"Where is a Starbucks? I'm gonna need that cup of coffee pronto."

Spring is Here!

How do we know spring is upon us?

Well, the weather has changed about 5 degrees.

The days are longer.

And we just had 2 more little pets move in.

These baby hummingbirds were born in the last couple of days.

The mama built her nest in a ficus tree on our patio, which I thought was so cool, just having a little hummingbird that we could see up close.

And then babies....I can hardly contain myself.

As I mentioned, the weather has warmed up about 5 degrees. The weatherman warned us that winter will be back in full force this weekend.

That means nothing.

The weatherman's job out here has got to be one of the easiest ever.

I really hope that Neil Frank in Houston gets paid much more than this guy.

Last week, the weather led the top of the news.

It was going to be a "cold and crazy" weather day.

The forecast was 60 with some showers.

Anyways....

a couple to leave you with.

Tough guy

she wants to take this everywhere. Walks take 10 times longer now.

But I let dad deal with that.

You know how else I know that spring is upon us?

I need to go fill out my Brackett!

It's the only way I'll see my husband over the next 2 weeks.

Family Time

We have been enjoying lazy days with no plans.

It's been so nice because next month is going to be crazy with traveling. Houston, here we come!

But until then, we are enjoying the sun, and having lots of family time.

Yesterday after nap, we decided to drive around and kill some time. I have been lazy about taking pictures lately and haven't had much to blog about.

But an impromptu beach stop yesterday provided some fun pics to show and keep the natives from getting restless. (aka Nana complaining that it's been way too long without a blog).

Self portrait attempt didn't work so well to get the both of us in.

My 3 little loves!